Owners of some cats worry that their pets behave aloof, do not flatter themselves and do not seek closeness with the owner. Getting a cat as a companion, people often imagine an idyllic picture of a good evening with a fluffy pet comfortably sitting on her lap.
But some cats do not show interest in such a pastime and do not like to sit in their arms. Before you sound the alarm and look for a solution to the “problem”, it’s worth understanding the reasons for this cat’s behavior.
Character and temperament
There are cats that do not tolerate close contacts, unsociable and unsociable. They prefer solitude and do not seem to need human society at all. Some cats themselves do not take the initiative, but they do not run away when they are picked up, they behave calmly, but slip away imperceptibly at the first opportunity. Most often, the reluctance of a cat to sit on its hands is due to its nature and temperament. The most severe animals prefer complete loneliness, and attempts to accustom them to the hands are likely to fail.
Features of some breeds
A cat’s dislike for physical contacts may be due to the characteristics of its breed. British shorthair and Scottish fold and straight-eared cats often behave very independently, which is also manifested in their unwillingness to sit on their hands. The phlegmatic British and Scots do not really need affection, they are self-sufficient and usually do not go hand in hand, they only allow you to stroke yourself. Wayward Maine Coons can exhibit similar qualities. Among the cats of these breeds there are more sociable individuals, but exceptions only confirm the rule.
Outbred pets are usually more contact, love affection, rub on their feet and willingly go to their hands, experiencing real bliss. But cats are also found among outbreds who avoid the owner’s hands and prefer to stay at a certain distance from people.
Introverted and fearful cats
A kitten that was not picked up and stroked at an early age is unlikely to begin to feel a desire to sit on a person’s arms with age. In the best case, the animal can be stacked nearby, observing a certain distance. If a cat was born and grew on the street, then it is hardly worth wondering that human touch guards her.
The negative life experience of the animal makes him feel fear, linking the proximity of human hands with unpleasant events and sensations. Only the owner’s sensitivity and patience will help her overcome this fear and learn to trust people, at least her own, again.
How to teach a cat to hands
You can try to accustom the cat to physical contacts, but you need to do this gradually, and do not insist if the animal does not like something. Forced stroking can only aggravate the situation, the cat will break out, most likely, will begin to bite and scratch. If you hold the cat in your arms forcibly, it will be afraid and may begin to hide from people, seeing the intention to touch it.
It’s easier to teach a kitten or young cat to sitting on his hands than a mature individual. Accustoming a shy cat to your hands, for a start you can limit yourself to a light touch with your fingertips, do it better in passing, after which it is worth leaving the cat alone for a while. Gradually, you can move on to rare unobtrusive strokes in the direction of growth of the coat.
Having turned such stroking into a kind of ritual, you need to let the cat get used to it, and only then move on to a closer approach. You can try to feed the cat from the palm of your hand so that it is not afraid of hands. It will be possible to take the cat in its arms when it ceases to avoid touching, and it is not necessary to hold the cat if it starts to resist.
Having shown patience, an attentive owner will be able to reach understanding with his pet and, perhaps, the cat will share his desire and eventually will be happy to sit in his arms. If this does not happen, then the owner will have to come to terms with the nature of the cat and not insist. If the cat does not seek to sit in the hands of a person, this does not mean that she does not love him.